Byumasexual

Byumasexual Flag
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The colors were based on the ideas of “trauma”, “{re}birth”, and “sexuality”.

Byumasexual (/-romantic/-platonic/-aesthetic/-queerplatonic/-sensual/-alterous) is a neurosexuality defined as "a sexual orientation term for those who experienced some kind of trauma during the “awakening” of their sexual attractoin/orientation (for example: when one first starts to date or gets curious about their own sexual orientation). Due to this trauma, the concept or idea of “sexual attraction” is a very confusing subject to them. These individuals might have a basic idea of their orientation (”I know I am not straight” or “I know I am not gay”) but beyond that, it is a mystery. People who identify as Byumasexual might have a history of “cycling” through different sexual orientation terms, attempting to find a term that they feel comfortable with (the “light bulb moment”).
This term is a more specific version of unthenalsexual. This term is NOT an excuse to not see professional help if you’re experiencing negative physical and/or mental health symptoms. If this is negatively interferring [sic] with your day-to-tday life, please seek out the proper professional.
Questioning is not a term these people feel comfortable with. One reason could be that it feels too “superficial”. Another reason could be that they feel like questioning is a “transitioning” term.
Byumasexual could easily be connected to caedosexual (believing trauma made you no longer experience sexual attraction), implasexual (Someone who feels they are never quite sure of their sexual orientation due to self doubt or anxiety), or pomosexual (believing there is no current term within the LGBT/MOGAI community that fits you, but there might be in the future).
This term was created by combining a greek word with an old norse word. It’s pronounced “bee-you-ma-sexual.””1

History of the term

Byumasexual was coined on February 6, 2018 by Vasilisa on Beyond-Mogai-Pride-Flags. The flag was created at the same time.2

MOGAI-Watch Poem

Byumasexual
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My first date ended poorly–
my date refused to pay,
and that trauma haunts me
to this very day.

Since I was cut so deeply,
my confidence is shaken–
I think a MOGAI term might help me,
but I am quite mistaken

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