Aegosexual

Aegosexual/Autochorissexual Flag
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Aegosexual (/-romantic/-platonic/-aesthetic/-queerplatonic/-sensual/-alterous) is a miscellaneous MOGAI sexuality defined as "a disconnection between oneself and the object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the activities therein."1
The older name for this is Austochorissexual.

According to tumblr blog MOGAI Library,
You might be autochorissexual [or aegosexual] if:

  • you get aroused by sexual content but don’t actually want to engage in any sexual activities yourself
  • you masturbate, but are neutral or repulsed by the idea of having sex with another person
  • when you fantasize about sex, you envision people other than yourself, and/or you view it in third person, as though you’re watching it on TV, rather than imagining it in first person, through your own eyes
  • you predominantly or entirely fantasize about fictional characters or celebrities, rather than people you actually know
  • you identify as asexual and feel no sexual attraction to people, but enjoy masturbating, are aroused by sexually explicit content, and/or have sexual fantasies.

History of the term

Autochorissexual, the original term, was coined by Anthony F. Bogaert in 2012 and labeled as a “paraphilia,"2 which MOGAI people later objected to.
Aegosexual was suggested as a new, actually pronounceable name for the same idea by whythefuckisyouromeo on November 1, 2014.3
From the renaming post:

Autochoris- is a bit of a mouthful…
…and was coined with intentions to use it to describe a paraphilia (NOT a sexuality), by someone who (despite notable and commendable contributions) is not himself asexual, nor does he remotely identify with the term he created.
Now, to sidetrack: I am not the only person to have had the “Yer a wizard, Harry!” moment of realization upon hearing the description of this term, that incredible relief of “Oh God, it’s not just me”. I’m not the only one to have spent years wondering what was wrong with me, why I felt this way, and what the hell my identity was, anyway. I give tremendous regards to Dr. Bogaert for his coinage of the term, and his definition of what many of us were experiencing without knowing how to explain it, or feeling comfortable enough to talk about it.
However, my gratitude to Dr. Bogaert does not erase my distaste for the unnecessarily long and unpronounceable word (choris or khoris?), nor does it mean I am any less upset and offended that he described my experience as a paraphilia. A paraphilia is an abnormal sexual interest, much like a fetish. And as we can see from the number of people who can relate, autochoris- is not abnormal. We are not broken, we are not strange, and we have lived our lives wondering what’s wrong with us. In my case, I’ve spent years already battling hatred from both sides; those who claimed asexuality does not exist, and my own mind, for claiming I couldn’t be asexual if I experienced sexual arousal. Enough is enough. I know I’m not the only one that’s taken years to get here and find where I belong. I’m not about to sit by and let some allosexual man tell me that what I’ve felt, worried about, and cried over for years is essentially a fetish. This is my sexuality, and I don’t want the word for it to take longer to say than the definition.
So! I saw a suggestion that someone who identifies with the definition of autochoris- to coin a new term, and I set to the task. Using my previous knowledge of Latin linguistics and a few websites, I made a list of possible terms, and narrowed down my favorite: aego- (AY-go or AI-go), as in aegosexual(ity) or aegoromantic(ism). This was drawn from the prefix a-, meaning without, and the word ego, meaning me or myself. Translated literally, aegosexual would mean “sexual without myself”, which is essentially the same translation as autochoris.
I don’t mean to be presumptuous and say that this is the only acceptable term for this sexuality. However, I am adamant that this be considered a sexuality, and due to my belief that it should be treated as such, I felt it needed a term to describe it as a sexuality, not as a paraphilia. I’m open to suggestions for other terms, and I still have my list of possible terms and their meanings saved, if anyone would like to see them. Since autochoris- is still a new word, I’d like to see it reclaimed and accepted as a sexuality, with a new word to brand it as such, before it’s dismissed by the ace/aro and LGBT+ community. I will not rest until it is classed as a full sexuality, and I fully believe that a new term is the first step towards making it so.4

The flag was created on July 23, 2014 by tumblr user hunterinabrowncoat.5

MOGAI-Watch Poem

Autochorissexual
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I climb the tree outside her house,
to lay eyes on my love,
for tonight, her blinds aren’t closed,
thank heavens above.
Some suitors might bring a lute
those serenading, lusty bucks,
but me, I bring binoculars
so I can watch her when she fucks.

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Aegosexual
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I like thinking about vaginas,
and looking at them, too,
but just thinking about them
it the most I’ll ever do.

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